Comments on: How to accept a compliment http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-accept-a-compliment Waging war on thoughtless living Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:27:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-353 Niall Doherty Tue, 27 Sep 2011 19:19:13 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-353 Haha, you got me. I'm smiling and saying "Thanks, Stan!" Haha, you got me. I’m smiling and saying “Thanks, Stan!”

]]> By: stan http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-352 stan Tue, 27 Sep 2011 17:47:45 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-352 Repost this every week Niall. We need to hear this regularly. I too frequently deflect compliments, though I'm working on getting better, and yet often tell others accept them gracefully. Our problem of course is accepting how wonderful we (that's each and everyone one of us) are, and worse again displaying that. Did we have a similar chat recently about the 'oddity' in school. Anyway you're beautiful. You're brave. And your brilliant. Hope your smiling now and saying 'Thanks Stan' Best of luck on the trip! Repost this every week Niall. We need to hear this regularly. I too frequently deflect compliments, though I’m working on getting better, and yet often tell others accept them gracefully. Our problem of course is accepting how wonderful we (that’s each and everyone one of us) are, and worse again displaying that. Did we have a similar chat recently about the ‘oddity’ in school.

Anyway you’re beautiful. You’re brave. And your brilliant. Hope your smiling now and saying ‘Thanks Stan’

Best of luck on the trip!

]]> By: Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-351 Niall Doherty Sun, 10 Apr 2011 17:57:54 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-351 Thank you for reading, Ðilpreet. I appreciate the kind words. One tip about talking with girls: Stop telling yourself that you're not good at it ;-) Thank you for reading, Ðilpreet. I appreciate the kind words.

One tip about talking with girls: Stop telling yourself that you’re not good at it ;-)

]]> By: Ðilpreet Singh http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-350 Ðilpreet Singh Sun, 10 Apr 2011 10:28:01 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-350 Hi Niall, Really awesome post!!!!!!! something really out of your now-a-days one-side concentrated articles.........definitely appreciate it!!!!! I am working hard to achieve my 'perfect self' and growing socially is certainly one problem I will have to fight with,and this will help!!!. I am not good at talking with girls and if accidently strike up a conversation where I get a compliment I would deflect it,and that's precisely because I want to present myself humble!! Hope i progress towards succes faster!! And Thanks for the article once again!!!.......Keep the good work going!!! :) Hi Niall,

Really awesome post!!!!!!!

something really out of your now-a-days one-side concentrated articles………definitely appreciate it!!!!!

I am working hard to achieve my ‘perfect self’ and growing socially is certainly one problem I will have to fight with,and this will help!!!.

I am not good at talking with girls and if accidently strike up a conversation where I get a compliment I would deflect it,and that’s precisely because I want to present myself humble!!

Hope i progress towards succes faster!!

And Thanks for the article once again!!!…….Keep the good work going!!! :)

]]> By: Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-349 Niall Doherty Sat, 09 Apr 2011 15:08:45 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-349 Thanks, Shirley. I think my Catholic upbringing also made it difficult for me to accept compliments when I was younger. I was able to leave all that behind though, thank God :-P Digging the nail art pics on your blog, btw. Very cool. Thanks, Shirley. I think my Catholic upbringing also made it difficult for me to accept compliments when I was younger. I was able to leave all that behind though, thank God :-P

Digging the nail art pics on your blog, btw. Very cool.

]]> By: Shirley http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-348 Shirley Sat, 09 Apr 2011 14:12:22 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-348 Hi Niall, This is a great post, it's weird, a few weeks ago I was talking to a friend of mine about the exact same thing, accepting compliments and we both are trying to get better at saying thank you, instead of deflecting. Me personally I blame a Catholic upbringing, you're not supposed to be good enough, they taught us...that's reserved for God and saints. Keep up the great work. Hi Niall,

This is a great post, it’s weird, a few weeks ago I was talking to a friend of mine about the exact same thing, accepting compliments and we both are trying to get better at saying thank you, instead of deflecting.

Me personally I blame a Catholic upbringing, you’re not supposed to be good enough, they taught us…that’s reserved for God and saints.

Keep up the great work.

]]> By: The most important person in your life http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-347 The most important person in your life Thu, 16 Sep 2010 23:32:42 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-347 [...] Accept gifts graciously [...] [...] Accept gifts graciously [...]

]]> By: Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-346 Niall Doherty Wed, 28 Jul 2010 19:36:09 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-346 Thanks, Pete. My theory is that those 800 years of oppression by the English made Irish people feel sub-par and unworthy of praise. They always felt that they couldn't be too happy or too grateful, because the English would eventually come along and put an end to it. That attitude seeped into the consciousness of the people somehow and stayed through the generations. Like Des Bishop said, only in Ireland is loving yourself considered a bad thing. "Look at yer man. I'd say he loves himself!" All that said, I'm looking forward to being back home at the end of the year ;-) Thanks, Pete. My theory is that those 800 years of oppression by the English made Irish people feel sub-par and unworthy of praise. They always felt that they couldn’t be too happy or too grateful, because the English would eventually come along and put an end to it. That attitude seeped into the consciousness of the people somehow and stayed through the generations.

Like Des Bishop said, only in Ireland is loving yourself considered a bad thing. “Look at yer man. I’d say he loves himself!”

All that said, I’m looking forward to being back home at the end of the year ;-)

]]> By: Pete http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-345 Pete Wed, 28 Jul 2010 18:47:02 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-345 Hey Niall, perhaps you were right back then and we did find someone better :) Kidding... I thought it was a very Irish thing to deflect and refuse praise. We probably worry too much about what other people think. I have always felt that accepting the compliment would almost appear cocky and self-praising rather than show gratitude for the gesture. Thats why I try respond with a humble appreciation.. Sometimes I find the lack of gratitude, praise and thanks perhaps results in surprise when it does happen and leads to a confused, deflective and sometimes sarcastic response. Anyways, I am enjoying your ramblings, please do keep them coming and keep up the good work. Looking forward to seing you when you are home again.. Pete. Hey Niall, perhaps you were right back then and we did find someone better :) Kidding…

I thought it was a very Irish thing to deflect and refuse praise. We probably worry too much about what other people think. I have always felt that accepting the compliment would almost appear cocky and self-praising rather than show gratitude for the gesture. Thats why I try respond with a humble appreciation..

Sometimes I find the lack of gratitude, praise and thanks perhaps results in surprise when it does happen and leads to a confused, deflective and sometimes sarcastic response.

Anyways, I am enjoying your ramblings, please do keep them coming and keep up the good work. Looking forward to seing you when you are home again..

Pete.

]]> By: Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-344 Niall Doherty Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:30:28 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-344 Thanks for the comment, Sara. Isn't shyness a symptom of feeling undeserving? I used to be extremely shy, and it was because I didn't have confidence in my own abilities or opinions. When I started developing that confidence, the shyness went away and I was more comfortable accepting compliments. Thanks for the comment, Sara.

Isn’t shyness a symptom of feeling undeserving? I used to be extremely shy, and it was because I didn’t have confidence in my own abilities or opinions. When I started developing that confidence, the shyness went away and I was more comfortable accepting compliments.

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