Comments for Niall Doherty's dot com http://www.ndoherty.com Personal development, lifestyle design, minimalism Wed, 28 Jul 2010 19:36:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 Comment on How to accept a compliment by Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-1061 Niall Doherty Wed, 28 Jul 2010 19:36:09 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-1061 Thanks, Pete. My theory is that those 800 years of oppression by the English made Irish people feel sub-par and unworthy of praise. They always felt that they couldn't be too happy or too grateful, because the English would eventually come along and put an end to it. That attitude seeped into the consciousness of the people somehow and stayed through the generations. Like Des Bishop said, only in Ireland is loving yourself considered a bad thing. "Look at yer man. I'd say he loves himself!" All that said, I'm looking forward to being back home at the end of the year ;-) Thanks, Pete. My theory is that those 800 years of oppression by the English made Irish people feel sub-par and unworthy of praise. They always felt that they couldn’t be too happy or too grateful, because the English would eventually come along and put an end to it. That attitude seeped into the consciousness of the people somehow and stayed through the generations.

Like Des Bishop said, only in Ireland is loving yourself considered a bad thing. “Look at yer man. I’d say he loves himself!”

All that said, I’m looking forward to being back home at the end of the year ;-)

]]> Comment on How to accept a compliment by Pete http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-1060 Pete Wed, 28 Jul 2010 18:47:02 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-1060 Hey Niall, perhaps you were right back then and we did find someone better :) Kidding... I thought it was a very Irish thing to deflect and refuse praise. We probably worry too much about what other people think. I have always felt that accepting the compliment would almost appear cocky and self-praising rather than show gratitude for the gesture. Thats why I try respond with a humble appreciation.. Sometimes I find the lack of gratitude, praise and thanks perhaps results in surprise when it does happen and leads to a confused, deflective and sometimes sarcastic response. Anyways, I am enjoying your ramblings, please do keep them coming and keep up the good work. Looking forward to seing you when you are home again.. Pete. Hey Niall, perhaps you were right back then and we did find someone better :) Kidding…

I thought it was a very Irish thing to deflect and refuse praise. We probably worry too much about what other people think. I have always felt that accepting the compliment would almost appear cocky and self-praising rather than show gratitude for the gesture. Thats why I try respond with a humble appreciation..

Sometimes I find the lack of gratitude, praise and thanks perhaps results in surprise when it does happen and leads to a confused, deflective and sometimes sarcastic response.

Anyways, I am enjoying your ramblings, please do keep them coming and keep up the good work. Looking forward to seing you when you are home again..

Pete.

]]> Comment on How to accept a compliment by Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-1059 Niall Doherty Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:30:28 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-1059 Thanks for the comment, Sara. Isn't shyness a symptom of feeling undeserving? I used to be extremely shy, and it was because I didn't have confidence in my own abilities or opinions. When I started developing that confidence, the shyness went away and I was more comfortable accepting compliments. Thanks for the comment, Sara.

Isn’t shyness a symptom of feeling undeserving? I used to be extremely shy, and it was because I didn’t have confidence in my own abilities or opinions. When I started developing that confidence, the shyness went away and I was more comfortable accepting compliments.

]]> Comment on How to accept a compliment by Sara http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-1058 Sara Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:09:58 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-1058 I have problems accepting compliments and I always tend to deflect, too! I'm trying to learn to just say "thank you", but I feel my face turns red :) It's not only a matter of desiring to appear humble or feeling that we don't deserve admiration: for me it's a matter of shyness, too. I'm embarassed when people's attention focuses on me and I don't know what to say... so I try to joke. I have problems accepting compliments and I always tend to deflect, too!
I’m trying to learn to just say “thank you”, but I feel my face turns red :)
It’s not only a matter of desiring to appear humble or feeling that we don’t deserve admiration: for me it’s a matter of shyness, too. I’m embarassed when people’s attention focuses on me and I don’t know what to say… so I try to joke.

]]> Comment on Marching towards minimalism, becoming an affiliate, and feeding the homeless by Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/minimalism/#comment-1055 Niall Doherty Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:59:13 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1065#comment-1055 Thanks for all the comments folks. All out of free e-books now. Enjoy! Thanks for all the comments folks. All out of free e-books now. Enjoy!

]]> Comment on Marching towards minimalism, becoming an affiliate, and feeding the homeless by Angela http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/minimalism/#comment-1054 Angela Tue, 27 Jul 2010 19:52:10 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1065#comment-1054 I remember hearing you talk about this at CGW and I remember thinking then that I needed to check that out. I'm really interested in living more simply, but I do have a difficult time letting "things" go. Some of it is the old "I might need that" problem. I own a couple of books about getting rid of clutter and how that helps clear out your life and find the life you want to live, but its difficult to stop the cycle. I clear out, get rid of the clutter and in a few months its back again. I remember hearing you talk about this at CGW and I remember thinking then that I needed to check that out. I’m really interested in living more simply, but I do have a difficult time letting “things” go. Some of it is the old “I might need that” problem. I own a couple of books about getting rid of clutter and how that helps clear out your life and find the life you want to live, but its difficult to stop the cycle. I clear out, get rid of the clutter and in a few months its back again.

]]> Comment on How to accept a compliment by Niall Doherty http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-1053 Niall Doherty Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:50:42 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-1053 Thanks, Tony. I find eye contact is also important when saying thank you. Gratitude comes across more sincere when you look the other person in the eye when expressing it. Thanks, Tony. I find eye contact is also important when saying thank you. Gratitude comes across more sincere when you look the other person in the eye when expressing it.

]]> Comment on How to accept a compliment by Tony Hernandez http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/how-to-accept-a-compliment/#comment-1052 Tony Hernandez Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:28:02 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1273#comment-1052 I still have a hard time with compliments. A sincere "thank-you" is best. Trying to compensate for my inability to accept a compliment, I started expressing faux-confidence, which just comes off as arrogant. You don't want do be "No, I suck" but neither, "Yeah, I'm awesome" either. The simple thank-you is perfect and rarely used and meant. I also like how you explained how excepting a compliment, sincerely, and making into an open conversation can do kill two bird with one stone. You can accept a compliment and be humble at the same time. Good stuff. I still have a hard time with compliments. A sincere “thank-you” is best. Trying to compensate for my inability to accept a compliment, I started expressing faux-confidence, which just comes off as arrogant. You don’t want do be “No, I suck” but neither, “Yeah, I’m awesome” either. The simple thank-you is perfect and rarely used and meant.

I also like how you explained how excepting a compliment, sincerely, and making into an open conversation can do kill two bird with one stone. You can accept a compliment and be humble at the same time. Good stuff.

]]> Comment on Marching towards minimalism, becoming an affiliate, and feeding the homeless by Ben Lehman http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/minimalism/#comment-1050 Ben Lehman Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:24:05 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1065#comment-1050 Mnmlsm = lfty gol. Ct al xtrneus frm eqāshn. Lēv jst wtz nscery 2 cre8 hpnss. Wshng u bst of lck n Īrlnd. Plz cnsdr me 4 ebook! Thx. ; ) Mnmlsm = lfty gol. Ct al xtrneus frm eqāshn. Lēv jst wtz nscery 2 cre8 hpnss. Wshng u bst of lck n Īrlnd.
Plz cnsdr me 4 ebook! Thx. ; )

]]> Comment on Marching towards minimalism, becoming an affiliate, and feeding the homeless by Tony Hernandez http://www.ndoherty.com/2010/07/minimalism/#comment-1045 Tony Hernandez Fri, 23 Jul 2010 23:16:14 +0000 http://www.ndoherty.com/?p=1065#comment-1045 Great post Niall. My first blush of minimalism was when I read The 4-Hour Work Week. When he went on with the 80-20 rule and gave how it can b used on many examples, including only using 20% of what you actually use, I said to myself, "Oh crap, I have a lot of stuff." When I gave away a bunch of my clothes last month, I didn't feel as if I lost something, instead I felt I gained. What I mean is, instead of having a LOT random pieces of clothing I now have less, yet higher quality on the whole, clothing. Less is really more. Except the e-book. I want that! Great post Niall. My first blush of minimalism was when I read The 4-Hour Work Week. When he went on with the 80-20 rule and gave how it can b used on many examples, including only using 20% of what you actually use, I said to myself, “Oh crap, I have a lot of stuff.”

When I gave away a bunch of my clothes last month, I didn’t feel as if I lost something, instead I felt I gained. What I mean is, instead of having a LOT random pieces of clothing I now have less, yet higher quality on the whole, clothing.

Less is really more. Except the e-book. I want that!

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